Posted by: Vernon Ready
It’s not easy to make decisions while you are getting a divorce. The whole reason you are separating with your ex is because you are not getting along, or have different ideas for how your lives should look in the future.
While you are looking for ways to resolve your disputes, consider mediation. This form of conflict resolution creates a civil atmosphere, aims to leave both parties satisfied, and works through the complicated (and often very emotional) decisions that come with divorce.
This process is not meant to “determine a winner,” and mediators cannot “pick a side.” Instead, both parties aim to come to a negotiation that will help each party meet in the middle and find an agreeable outcome for everyone.
There are a lot of ways to resolve disputes, especially if divorce or legal matters are involved. You may be also considering a settlement meeting, or simply taking your issues to court.
So when might you want to consider mediation?
If any of the following apply to your case, however, you should strongly consider mediation:
Before you meet with your ex, a mediator will usually request a private, separate meeting with each individual party. The mediator may also meet with any children, lawyers, or new partners involved, but this is not always necessary.
A joint meeting will occur if it is deemed appropriate and does not put either party in danger. After all of this information and discussion, the mediator will then draw up an agreement based on the parties’ decisions. When the decision is adjusted to the parties’ liking and signed, it will be used in divorce proceedings.
One important thing to note is that a mediator cannot give you legal advice if he or she is not certified as a lawyer as well. If you have legal questions, they will have to direct you to the appropriate resources.
Separately paying for a mediator and a lawyer, however, can get expensive fast. Your best bet is to reach out to a Colorado lawyer who is also certified as a mediator.
About the Author:
Vernon Ready is an award-winning Colorado lawyer with an in-depth understanding of all areas of family law, estate planning, and personal injury. His energetic and aggressive advocacy approach allow him to successfully navigate complex cases, including high asset divorce and complicated custody issues. During his time at the University of Colorado Law School, Ready won numerous awards for his trial advocacy skills. Since being admitted to practice in 2009, Ready has become well-known throughout Denver and the state for the passionate defense of his clients and his unparalleled understanding of the law.