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Everything You Need to Know about Colorado Family Law Mediation

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Everything You Need to Know about Colorado Family Law Mediation

It’s not easy to make decisions while you are getting a divorce. The whole reason you are separating with your ex is because you are not getting along, or have different ideas for how your lives should look in the future.


While you are looking for ways to resolve your disputes, consider mediation. This form of conflict resolution creates a civil atmosphere, aims to leave both parties satisfied, and works through the complicated (and often very emotional) decisions that come with divorce.


What Exactly Is Family Law Mediation?


Family law mediation is the process of two parties coming to a mutual agreement with the help of a neutral, third party mediator.


This process is not meant to “determine a winner,” and mediators cannot “pick a side.” Instead, both parties aim to come to a negotiation that will help each party meet in the middle and find an agreeable outcome for everyone.


There are a lot of ways to resolve disputes, especially if divorce or legal matters are involved. You may be also considering a settlement meeting, or simply taking your issues to court.


So when might you want to consider mediation?


When You Should Consider Family Law Mediation


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If any of the following apply to your case, however, you should strongly consider mediation:


  • You Have ChildrenA settlement agreement focuses solely on the legal aspects of your case. It does not consider the emotions behind decisions like child support or child custody. As a co-parent, you will continue to have a relationship with your ex, so it’s best to come to an agreement that allows both of you to work together to raise your children.
  • You Want to Avoid Having Others Make Decisions for YouThe mediator is not in charge of creating solutions. It is all up to the parties working together. The alternative, taking the decision to court, would leave the decisions in the hands of a judge. In settlement agreements, the decisions are left in the hands of each party’s lawyers, who talk privately after meeting with their respective clients. In other words, mediation gives you more control over divorce proceedings.
  • When Everything Else Has FailedMediation has proven to be extremely successful. Over 80% of mediation sessions end in a finalized settlement. Even if you and your ex seem to have opposite views regarding your divorce, mediation is worth a try. It is also relatively inexpensive (especially compared to taking your divorce to court), and many find it to be a worthy investment.

What to Expect During Family Law Mediation


Before you meet with your ex, a mediator will usually request a private, separate meeting with each individual party. The mediator may also meet with any children, lawyers, or new partners involved, but this is not always necessary.


A joint meeting will occur if it is deemed appropriate and does not put either party in danger. After all of this information and discussion, the mediator will then draw up an agreement based on the parties’ decisions. When the decision is adjusted to the parties’ liking and signed, it will be used in divorce proceedings.


One important thing to note is that a mediator cannot give you legal advice if he or she is not certified as a lawyer as well. If you have legal questions, they will have to direct you to the appropriate resources.


Separately paying for a mediator and a lawyer, however, can get expensive fast. Your best bet is to reach out to a Colorado lawyer who is also certified as a mediator.


About the Author:


Vernon Ready is an award-winning Colorado lawyer with an in-depth understanding of all areas of family law, estate planning, and personal injury. His energetic and aggressive advocacy approach allow him to successfully navigate complex cases, including high asset divorce and complicated custody issues. During his time at the University of Colorado Law School, Ready won numerous awards for his trial advocacy skills. Since being admitted to practice in 2009, Ready has become well-known throughout Denver and the state for the passionate defense of his clients and his unparalleled understanding of the law.